No One Is Perfect- Stop Expecting It

I've been seeing to much, for too long now, that deals with people being imperfect.

No one is perfect.

It's tempting to demand it. It's tempting to ignore forgiveness.

Righteous anger feels so good.

In this age especially, when so much information is available so quickly, it is easy to write people off.

Humanity is lost without hope. We are lost without redemption. We are lost without the recognition that sometimes there are only poor choices in poor situations.

No, we shouldn't do wrong knowingly. Yes, we should talk with those around us and do our best.

But no one is perfect. People are going to screw up. People are going to make massive mistakes. People are going to say ignorant and uneducated and careless things- out of anger, or fear, or frustration, or a dozen other difficult emotions.

And those people should pay recompense for those mistakes.

I'm not saying they should be able to restore their lives completely to the way it was before the mistake.

But we must recognize that relentlessness, that mercilessness, in any direction, is not the way we move forward.

Let us always remember that mercy and kindness and steadfastness is a better teacher of justice than stubbornness and pride.

Let us always remember that change is not best achieved by stamping out those who disagree with us, but by convincing those that disagree with us. And you can't do that when you believe they, or those around them, are incapable of change.

Here are two concrete examples of this:

Nuance: Natural Gas by Hank Green: video in which Hank discusses how fracking is bad but also useful and maybe something that could get us into something good.

Snape and Dumbledore from Harry Potter. Yes, this seems dumb. But I keep hearing about it, because over a decade later there is still debate about whether Snape is a 'good' guy or a 'bad' guy. In my humble opinion, Snape is an asshole who didn't want evil to take over the world. No, he's not 'nice.' He's a dick. He's a bully and a coward and a bit stalker-y and pathetic and maybe he has a terrible back story that makes these understandable but doesn't take them away. However- yes, he ultimately helped the side of good more than bad. Voldemort probably wouldn't have been defeated, at least not as quickly, without him. Of course, he allowed and probably even assisted abuse..."for the greater good." Not all good, not all bad- nuanced. Same with Dumbledore. People hate him for leaving Harry at the Dursley's at all...but um, he was literally marked for death by the equivalent of magic Hitler. Would a life on the run, full of assassination attempts- if he managed to live at all- really better?! I'm not saying Dumbledore was perfect either (although I am ignoring the Fantastic Beasts follow-ups because that part of the timeline is not complete yet). I'm saying- nuanced.

I just want us all to admit that the gray area exists, and it's okay.

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