What fuels you?

My pastor was telling a story about his kids the other night. His toddlers didn't want to eat their dinner, even though it was different than what the rest of the family was having and was specifically foods they enjoyed.

His wife was ready to just let them not eat, but he wasn't having it. They needed to it, so he spent his night alternating between putting them in time and out and sitting at the table with them.

On the way home, I said I would definitely have done the same as his wife and say let it go. Hubby would have done the same as the pastor and made the kids eat.

While it seems like a control issue, we figured out that it had a lot to do with personality types and how we learn.

To me, there's a natural consequence to not eating- you get hungry. Hunger is, to me, a punishment. I would rather eat than fight, because eating = beneficial and fighting = unrewarding.

Hubs doesn't agree though. He can, in his words, "live off of spite for days."

And that, my friends, is the kind of fundamental differences you don't even think of until you are in a deeply committed relationship and it slaps you in the face.

1 comment

  1. I'm not sure where I'd fall on this. When I was a nanny, we'd sit with the non-eating kids for an hour or until our patience ran out. Then they'd be allowed to leave the table if they refused to eat, but when they did get hungry, they were eating the plate that had been served and stored in the fridge.

    I can see both sides. If kids don't eat, they get hungry eventually, but you have to run through the gamut of hanger and frustration because they don't realize what is happening is happening because they ARE hungry. But at the same time, I don't have time for that shit.